Monday, January 18, 2010

The Wisdom of the Ottoman

When I was cleaning up the house one evening back in the fall, I noticed that the things that were scattered on the ottoman in the family room constituted a random but very accurate microcosm of what my life is about right now:


They are all things for John (my 4-year-old) and Sam (my 4-month-old): John's preschool books and craft project, part of an Aquadoodle pen, and his current favorite movie. Sam's bottle, diaper, bib, socks, and little baby slippers. This is evidence of how my life right now revolves around taking care of these two boys. I haven't lost myself in this process; it's simply that they are my full-time job. My husband gets up and goes to his office in the city in the morning; my office is my home, nurturing, feeding, and caring for these two future citizens of the world.

If I didn't have kids, the things on the ottoman would be completely different, representing the life that I used to have when I wasn't responsible for anyone but myself and could do whatever I wanted whenever I wanted to do it. Sometimes I really miss that freedom and that way of life. But I love where I'm at right now and the phase of life that I'm in. This is the time and the season for me to be a mother of young children. I wouldn't change the objects on the ottoman for anything.

9 comments:

Kristina P. said...

Very sweet!

Alyson (New England Living) said...

Glad you are loving your phase in life right now! I always had a hard time in that phase. It's hard not to lose yourself during that time. But some people thrive off of having little ones.

I'm happy to be in the phase of not being a mom of little babies anymore. After 12 1/2 years of giving myself completely over to little children, I love my new sense of freedom.

Ann Marie said...

I loved this post!
Very sweet.. and you can tell what a great mother you are in your wisdom shared!

I realize the importance of being home with my children.. I wouldn't want it any other way. -- But I also realize that I need ME time as well.. A date with no children once a week.. and lunches with girlfriends.. blogs.. it's good and needed therapy foe me as well!

Yaya said...

I can't wait until Alex is my full time job! :)

Sarah Laurence said...

Oh, I remember those days. You capture them well. It is a most important job that you are doing. The baby years go quickly except while you’re living through them. Be sure to take some alone time breaks on weekends.

rachel said...

AMEN!! This time is just so fleeting.

Kerri said...

I agree!

Nidhi said...

I agree. These moments are priceless. But what is nice to know is that you haven'r lost yourself in the process. Because many of us forget we are human beings before being a mother.

Connected to your blog through Sarah's blog.

Joanne said...

Your ottoman days will be some of the most special, that every day life and love of being with your children. The photo brings back many sweet memories.