Tuesday, December 2, 2008

I Can Do Hard Things

Well, I did it. I survived a rite of passage that many people often stress out about, myself included. Last Saturday evening, I went to my 10-year high-school reunion. And, (drumroll please)...I really enjoyed it! I was afraid I would wimp out and not go. But I stayed true to my RSVP and to my friends who were going, which I'm very pleased about. It's not every day that I make smart, brave decisions!

I had a great high school class, and as a result my high school years were a lot of fun. There were less than 100 of us, and by the time senior year came along most of them kind of felt like siblings, or cousins, to me. With the exception of my closest friends, I haven't seen most of them since we graduated together in June of 1998. I've often wondered about my former classmates, so it was really cool to see so many of them again, to see what they looked like after ten years and where their lives had taken them. I had a lot of fun, despite the huge migraine I got later that night after I left (I tend to internalize my anxiety, which produces big ol' migraines from time to time). I was fine once I was at the reunion, but why was I stressed out beforehand? I guess because I worry too much--will I say the right things, what will people think of me, what if I get stuck in a conversation rut, what if I forget someone's name, etc. But there was really no reason to worry and I'm so glad that I went. I would totally be regretting it if I had given into my fears and stayed home.

I'm finally going to join Facebook so that I can stay in touch with my long-lost friends and classmates a lot more easily. And now I can't wait for the 15-year reunion. Maybe I won't stress out as much by then!

Have you ever gone to one of your high-school or college reunions? If so, how was it? Were you nervous like I was, or was it no big deal?


Kristina P. said...

I'm glad you had such a great time! I had very few friends in high school, and overall, it wasn't a great time in my life, so I didn't go to my 10 year, and probably won't go to any of them.

Me said...

I have one more year before I reach my 10. But I have no intentions of going....my class was soooo large and so many of us have gone so many different ways. I am not the same person I used to be. I know that is part of the charm, but I don't have any desire to go back to any of that. I am glad to see yours was a good experience though!

dougandcheryl said...

I didn't go to mine either. I wanted to. I loved high school. Our graduating class was huge though. If I am remembering right there was close to a thousand. I really was looking forward to it but by the time it rolled around so few of my friends had registered as going and it was really expensive. Also, I was very pregnant and not sure that was how I wanted to see everyone again considering that when I get pregnant every inch of me is pregnant-even my earlobes.
That's great that you went and had such a good time. I'm glad you faced your anxiety. If you do join facebook I am on there as well!

Laura said...

Good job at overcoming your fears! Facebook is so addictive and fun. I have been starting groups left and right, like groups for the Moms in my ward, my senior HS class, groups for my extended family, etc. You should start some, it is so much fun. Anyone can start a group, and it is fun to see them expand in membership. We will have to become facebook buddies.

Anonymous said...

Ours is planned for next nov 27th.
I joined facebook recently and there are a TON of ppl I graduated w/ on there.

I am sure I will be completely nervous for mine!

rachel said...

I haven't gone to any of mine because I moved around so much. But I've kept in touch with everyone that I've wanted to so that's good. I'm so happy for you that you went :)

Alyson (New England Living) said...

I haven't gone to my reunions. My graduating class was massive and I didn't feel a real connection to it. Most of my close friends from high school didn't go, so I didn't want to.

But being on facebook is like one big, massive high school reunion! It's amazing the amount of people you reconnect with there. So, you're finally going to join? How long have I been trying to talk you into this!! :)

Blog Buddy said...

You are so lucky to travel the country during the holidays :D

Katie said...

I went to my 10 year reunion, it was a few years ago (I was preggo with Josh at the time). It was fine, I basically got to see some friends that I hadn't seen in about a year or two. There were a few other girls that I had hoped to see that didn't make it, who I had lost touch with. Our high school was relatively small (I think we had something like 98 girls in our graduating class - it was an all girls' school). Really, I didn't have the best high school experience, so it wasn't like I was overly excited to see alot of people. I'll probably go to my 25 year reunion, though, just because I'm proud of all I've done with my life.

Ann Marie said...

Hi there..
Thanks for commenting on my blog. I feel a little guilty that you happened to come on a "rant" day, but I appreciated your thoughts.

What a fun blog you have. I would love to visit the East. The homes and green over there seems dreamy.

I have never been to a high school reunion. It kind of terrifies me. I think I'd enjoy it just for the "nozy" part of it, but that's about it. Glad you were brave enough to go!!

Have a good week! ~ Ann Marie

Wendyburd1 said...

I fwe had one they didn;t invite me (my 503 fellow graduates) and I still LIVEi in town. They never liked me, I was so NOT popular, so grrrrr

Karolynn said...

I just can't go to mine, it is really sad, but my ex husband and I were high school sweethearts and I just don't feel like answering questions about him and what happened to us etc.. I am glad you enjoyed yourself! I am on facebook! It is pretty cool!

Sarah Laurence said...

Donna, I’m commenting on this post because I lack the technical and fashion expertise to advise on your more recent posts. Your blog is showing updated in my sidebar. I rarely use the Blogger RSS.

I’m glad you enjoyed your 10 year reunion. My class was only 100 too, and some of us had been in school together for 15 years! What a fun question to ask.

I went to my 10th year high school reunion with my first baby. I thought it would be mortifying since my NYC classmates would all be doing cool jobs. To give you an example, one of my classmates is Anderson Cooper from CNN. There I was without a job, but my baby stole the show. Everyone loved him, and no one was critical of my decision to stay home with him (at least not openly). It also helped to go with my old school friends.

My friends and I went again for our 20th reunion, and if anything people were nicer with few exceptions. The aging was a bit of a shock because I still had an image of them in high school. I’m still glad I went.

A New England Life said...

Hi Donna,

I'm glad you went to your reunion too! It's not at all what you think it's going to be. I didn't go until my 20th, and just before we arrived I told my husband I was going to throw up! LOL!

But I didn't and we had a blast! Danced almost all night! The women looked really good, while the men ... not so much. I was hoping for a 25th but that didn't happen. Hard to believe it's been that long!

I'm on facebook too but I seldom use it. There's not enough time in the day for all the online stuff you can do. I wasn't able to find hardly anyone I graduated with either.